How to create sustainable New Years Resolutions

January 7th, 2012
New Year's Resolutions

Are you setting the right goals?

 

It’s January the time of the year when you can’t get any space at your gym during peak hours and the word detox is on everyone’s lips.

Some people knock New Years Resolutions. I love them although I prefer the term goals. You could in fact create resolutions at any time of the year but what better time to create them than after spending the month of December rushing to complete projects, partying and drinking too much and then taking time out to spend time with family and friends. The quietness after the holidays is a perfect time for reflection and there is an energy of newness. There is something about the energy of completion and then new beginnings that makes it a natural time to start.

But don’t worry if it’s not a good time for you. There are other good times. After your birthday when you reflect on being older, or in September when you come back from the Summer holidays. Other good times are the Chinese and Jewish New Years, after Ramadan or any other religious festivals.

 

So once you’ve set your goals. How do you sustain them?

Well there are 3 aspects to any real accomplishment. Sustainable achievement is dependent on three success factors: context, structure and energy. Now let’s explain it and look at how it all fits together

 

The context is the big picture, the vision. This is the “what” you are up to and the “why” you are up to it. It includes your goal but also the bigger aspects – your motivations, beliefs and your perceptions. For example if you want to lose weight but don’t really have a powerful Why you are unlikely to sustain it.

 

 

Everything is interlinked. The context dictates the scope of what is possible in your life. What you are up to will determine how much energy you need and also determine the structure that will help you to reach your goals.

In other words, if you look at any successful person, you will notice they have an empowering vision that motivates them. They are on a mission, working on a big goal or vision. They also have a high level of energy, and they have the systems and structures in place to support them in what they are doing.

If you are the CEO of a multinational company, you will need a lot of energy and then the structures to channel your energy in the direction of your goal. On the other hand, if you work in an unchallenging nine-to-five job, spend the rest of your life watching TV, and just live to enjoy the weekend, you don’t need much energy and the systems to support that energy.

 

Structure is the methodology and support you use to get things done. This is the How you achieve it. When you are going to do something, who with and where. There are 4 main elements to structure.

  1.  Your timetable: This is the way your time is set up – how your time is influenced, either externally, by your job or your need to do something at a certain time (e.g., look after children), and internally, by your need to get up at 7 am to go to the gym before work. This also includes recurring practices. (Daily and weekly etc.)
  2. Your environment: This is how your physical environment is set up, e.g., your desk, your home, the company for which you work. And includes which environments you need to do certain tasks. i.e. work out in the gym rather than home.
  3. Your commitments or agreements: The commitments or agreements that you follow or put in place are your job description, your commitment to get and stay fit, the need to look after a relative, or progress meetings that you set up.
  4. Other people: The people you work with, look after, or interact with; the people who can support you in your endeavour. This could be a personal trainer, coach a boss or even kids

 

Energy is the fuel needed to drive you. It determines the speed at which you get things done or cause results and how long you can go for. When energy is harnessed and channeled, things move efficiently. When energy is lacking or unfocused, getting things done is hard work, results are more difficult to come by and you tend to run out of steam. Energy is physical and mental resource needed.

 

Using a metaphor; if you were embarking on a journey to a far off destination, Context is the map, systems and structure comprise the vehicle you use and energy is the fuel.

 

So how do you use this? Here are some simple questions to ask yourself:

 

Context: Why is this important?

 

Structure: How am I going to do this? Where will I do it, When: What times, what days. Who will support me and What am I agreeing to

Energy: What level of energy do I need and how am I going to sustain that?

 

 

 

 

Finishing December, roll on 2012

January 6th, 2012
Christmastime in the City, originally uploaded by ☮Kate Monster.

It’s December nearly the end of the 2011.

I know many people get busy with Christmas and preparing for the holidays but for me not only is December a time for completing projects before Christmas and the New Year, but its also an opportunity to slow down, take stock and take time to renew my energy and creativity. It’s all about preparing myself for planning and creating 2012. Of course there is time for fun too.

Currently I’m in a mad rush to finish my current projects and complete my tax returns (I hate going into January with Tax returns looming over my head). One of the principles that I follow is to clear a space before creating something new. This works on a physical/ spatial level but also on a temporal level, clearing the past so you can focus on the future.

Many people create New Year’s resolutions and plans in January but because they haven’t dealt effectively with their past habits they have difficulty sticking to those resolutions.

Taking some time to reflect on what worked and what didn’t’ work during the year, will help you more powerfully plan for a great 2012.

Here is a great exercise for clearing the past and creating the right head space for planning 2012.   Spend at least 20 minutes answering these questions in a notebook or journal

• What have been your achievements up until now?
• What have been the disappointments or regrets?
• What did you not do that you had intended to do?
• What are you proud of from the year?
• What goals will you carry over into 2011 and what will you drop or rethink?
• Who can you forgive?
• What can you forgive yourself for?
• What are you grateful for?
• What was the theme of 2011  for you?
• What were your biggest learnings from the 2011?

• Is there anything you can complete before end of 2010 that would make a difference to your life? If so complete it

 

That at least is something to be grateful for.
And there is just one thing to do CELEBRATE!

How an Internet and Social Media Free Weekend fuels Productivity and Creativity

December 16th, 2011

 

I studied Kabbalah for a 3 years period (Yes I did meet Madonna but that’s not why I joined).   I experienced great shifts spiritually but also professionally.  One of those was a real opening in my creativity and productivity.

The thing that I attributed to this was observing Shabbat.  We did spiritual connection on Friday evenings and Saturday morning.  That time was a Tech Free day.   No use of the internet and mimimal use of the mobile phone (only if people called you).  After a Friday evening of tech detachment,  I’d always find I would wake up on saturday morning with lots of energy and I would get a download of creative ideas and solutions to problems I was dealing with.

In addition I noticed how addicted I was to the internet and social media.  Taking a day away, I found I let go of my attachments,  so when I came to using my computer again I’d be less distracted and be more productive.

A great way to get Faster, Calmer Sleep

December 15th, 2011

 

Girl with headphones

 

 

For awhile i’ve unpacked some of the recordings of the Zone Life System for friends as they’ve needed a specific function.  The most popular product so far has been the sleep product as it’s the easiest to use and brings the quickest benefit.

Everyone who has used it falls asleep before its finished.  So I decided to unpack this and create a specific product around sleep.  I’ve beefed up the sleep CD with a 30 page book and I also decided to add the Energizer too it as often people forget to use it and have a bad nights sleep.  The energizer helps relieve the effect of a bad nights sleep.

 

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A Simple Way to Increase Your Energy – The Energy Equation

November 23rd, 2011

I hate watching videos of me but I guess I need to get used to it.  Anyway…

 

The amount of Energy we have is equal to our peak physical energy less our stress.

Therefore the way to increase energy is to increase your peak physical energy and/or reduce stress.

 

More to come on increaseng your peak physical energy but suffice to say it is all the common sense stuff that we already know.

Stress reduction to come also

How to resuscitate your Social Life after a busy period

November 15th, 2011

Tea Party

I’ve been in a bit of a hole recently. I’m a very social person and I love meeting up with my friends. I usually make a habit of having a social event at least twice a week.

One of my biggest complaints with some of my friends (which I secretly rant about) is that they become so engrossed in work that they don’t keep in contact and me being the good friend has to constantly make the effort to maintain the friendship.  Funnily enough I found myself in the same situation recently.

I decided to spend a whole week focusing on completing my upcoming book. I took the decision to buckle down, focus and forgo social activities. Unfortunately the birthing process of this book took a lot longer than I expected and 1 week turned into 3. (Being a perfectionist didn’t help).

After 3 weeks of limited social life not only did I find myself becoming used to going out a lot less.  I hardly noticed that I hadn’t seen much of my friends it became ‘normal’ I wasn’t aware that anything was missing.    The week after my 3 week period I felt a bit down and disconnected and found it hard to do any work. It took me a day to figure out that what I really needed was to socialize and be around my friends. My inner child needed to go out and play.

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The Secret To Thriving on Less Sleep

November 4th, 2011

Sleepy Grizzly Bear

How much sleep do we really need?

I went to a talk by Dr John Demartini today at the Vitality, Genius, Longevity Conference.  An amazing speaker, John has dedicated his whole life to studying, teaching and travelling around the world inspiring and teaching others.  At the Conference  he spoke about vitality and illness.  There were many takeaways but one of the things that struck out for me is how much sleep he has.

He didn’t say how many hours he sleeps but he did suggest that at times in the past sleep wasn’t a big deal for him and he delegates that out..  When  you love what you do you don’t need much sleep.

 

However when you look at sleep research we are told that we need to have 8 hours sleep. So  How much do we really need?

If you ask most people how much sleep we should get, the common answer will be eight hours.  This is a generally established paradigm accepted by most people in western society.

However many successful people have lived on fewer than eight hours of sleep – Margaret Thatcher only slept five hours each night; Napoleon slept only four hours; and Buckminster Fuller followed a polyphasic sleeping pattern, sleeping 30 minutes every six hours, which he continued for two years.  Perhaps sleeping less hours are for leaders and extraordinary people.

You point me to a sleep study that says we need 8 hours, I’ll point you to one that says we need 6-7 hours of sleep.

Now we could argue that in the case of  World leaders (Margaret Thatcher and Napoleon) they have less sleep and tend to look haggard as a result.  They  sleep less because they are stressed.  This also could be true.

In the case of Demartini he looks younger than his age but his secret is

1) he doesn’t have the fate of a nation waiting for him to screw up. 2) he eats very well and 3)  he loves what he does.

He’s been studying health form over 30 years now so knows how to eat well.  He loves what he does so is able to tap into an enormous reservoir of energy that comes when you are living in alignment with your values and you love what you do.

Perhaps this is why sleep studies haven’t shown that we can get less sleep.  They are for the average person.  When you go beyond the average person into the high achiever catergory perhaps the rules no longer apply.

So with this in mind I see there are two routes.

1. The sensible route.  This is take the conventional advice have 7-8 hours sleep a night and adhere to this.  This is fine and works. If you’re not going to do anything useful by reducing the amount of sleep you have, you can’t go wrong by spending that time sleeping.  In other words if you are reducing sleep for the sake of it but aren’t doing anything worthwhile with the time they you’re probably not doing yourself a service.

2.  The Experimental route.  If you want to go the experimental route here are my observations of what works:

  1. The amount of sleep you need is correlated to the degree you are enjoying life.  When we are happy we sleep less.  When we are depressed we need more sleep.  Therefore have fun, do what you love and be happy and you’ll need less sleep
  2.  Some people are evening people and have trouble waking up in the morning.  But if you find yourself working, enjoying yourself and looking forward to the next moment then you’re on the right track.
  3. Eating well and exercising will make a big
  4. Listen to your body but know that your mind has an influence on the body.  You can sleep 8 hours and feel just as tired as if you slept 6 hours.  The trick is to stop worrying about being tired.  Be like a baby.  When a baby is tired it sleeps when it’s not tired it is awake.   Adults do clever things like check the clock before bed  calculate how much sleep they will have and then decide how tired they will feel in the morning.  Then hey presto they are tired in the morning.
  5. There are different levels of tiredness but when you are truly knackered listen to your body.  Check in with your body observe the signs.  What is your heart rate like, how do your eyes feel, are you feeling any tension anywhere?

 

The Bad Sleep Blues – How to deal with occasional insomnia

October 14th, 2011

need sleep
Last week I had a rare bout of bad sleep.  It was caused by the October heatwave, temperatures went to over 26 degrees centigrade (78F) when it’s usually 10 – 15 degrees C (50 -60F) at this time of year.  This meant it was just too hot to sleep comfortably. I’m in London so we don’t really have air conditioning unless you hire a machine which you might do for summer but not autumn.  So for 3 days I had trouble staying asleep this then had a knock on effect disrupting my sleep pattern for the rest of the week.

 

I was getting about 4 hours of solid sleep, then waking up and drifting in and out of sleep for most of the night.

 

The first night that it happened.  I woke at about 3 am and lay there frustrated trying to get back to sleep.  It took me about 2 hours before I was able to fall asleep again by which time I had a couple of hours more before having to get up.

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Had a Day from Hell? Don’t Get Mad Get Even

October 4th, 2011

Scream


“Arrrgh I am so freaking p%$%d”.    I had it all planned, I was going to leave on time, go to the gym and go to the cinema. 

It’s now 9.30 pm I’m just leaving work and on my way to the train station my neck and shoulders are sore and I’m now going home to just to chill out and relax at home.  I was looking forward to enjoying my evening and it’s now ruined. 

How did this happen?  My day started off well it wasn’t so packed, I had enough to do for the whole day but nothing to prevent me  leaving on time.

Then it happened the big REVEAL, the project that was supposed to be pretty close to completion had more work to be done and the deadline is today.  When did I find this out?  At 5:30 just when I was on my home run and about to finish for the day.

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How to recover from a bad night’s sleep

October 4th, 2011

Bad sleeping
 

So you wake up tired, haven’t had a good night’s sleep and you feel pretty lousy.  For all our best efforts not every night will mean a great night’s sleep. 

The ideal element for good sleep is relaxation.  Going to sleep tense or stressed can lead to tension upon waking up. So what do you do when you haven’t slept well?  A bad night’s sleep doesn’t have to mean the whole day is ruined.  The first instinct may be coffee but there are other more effective ways.  By taking the time to relax upon waking you can undo some of the effects of a poor night’s sleep. 

Here are my top tips:

  • Most important:  Do not worry about a poor night’s sleep.  A day on bad sleep will not kill you.  You can always catch up tonight. Worrying about sleep focuses your mind on feeling sleepy and tired and tends to prolong these feelings.
  • Get your mind on your side.  Usually, we have a little voice in our head that evaluates how much sleep we have had and whether we feel our best or not.  Many people calculate how much sleep they have had and then base that on whether they should or should not feel tired.  Stop listening to the little voice in your head when it comes to sleep.  Condition your mind to think that anything more than five hours’ sleep is good enough.
  • Relax:  Spend a couple of minutes taking some really deep breaths this will oxygenate the body more and ease some of the residual tension.  You can do some simple stretching exercises to stretch out the areas where you are tense.
  • Cold Shower.  I’ve only tried it once as I hate cold water, but it works well.  It shocks the body into waking up, gets the blood flowing. I use only in extreme circumstances
  • Exercise do some gentle or rigorous exercise to wake up the body.  Yoga or jogging will work.
  • in the Zone Life System the Energizer programme helps you which will wake you up by relaxing all of the tension and then helping you raise your energy levels.  The great thing is it relaxes the parts of your body that are difficult to relax such as your eyes and head